When it’s time to play with someone else-and this is important-find a top you trust. Before anyone else gets involved, there are a few steps outlined below that you should review and run through before you start bottoming. It’s human to worry, but know this: when it’s done properly, bottoming should be a fantastic-and pain-free-experience.

Are you a first time bottom? If you’re new to bottoming, you probably have a ton of questions-and worries-about what’s in store.