Are any of the apps out there geared toward folks who want to go about this carefully? Is it possible to minimize the risk of professional or social embarrassment here, or is this just something we must accept to pursue this lifestyle? Your patience might be rewarded!) Here is the problem: We both have careers that could be complicated or damaged by the stigma around “cheating.” I know about all the apps out there, but we live a large city, and there is a non-zero chance that we might run into someone on the apps we are connected to professionally or socially.

(Note to other guys who want this from their wives: be respectful, don't pressure, and give her time to think about it. Fast-forward to this week, and my wife tells me she is interested in exploring this. She was curious about it and wondered if I really wanted it to happen or if it was just something I wanted to keep in our rotation of dirty talk. So, I was extremely relieved when her reaction was intrigue rather than disgust. Her views on sex had always been traditional, and she had always expressed a very strict idea of monogamy and commitment. Several years back, I opened up to my wife about my fantasies of her sleeping with other men. I'm a straight guy, married to a straight woman for 15 years.